Before I was able to say, “I like butch women” I used to say, “I like butchy girls.” The use of the word “butch” all on its own sounded too scary or definite…or something. I was reminded of this recently when a friend told me that she considered herself “femmey”, but not “femme.” She had [...]
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Why the Y?
Posted in Uncategorized, tagged butch/femme, butchy, femmey, identity development, queer identity, stereotypes on February 19, 2009 | 3 Comments »
To Dye or Not to Dye?
Posted in Uncategorized, tagged aging, beauty standards, butch, femme, grey hair, primping, queer femininity, vanity on January 9, 2009 | 5 Comments »
My dark brown hair has recently been invaded by more and more grey. I used to just pull the noticeable ones out, but ever since we had to watch a documentary on trichotillomania in one of my psych. classes, I have an aversion to even the most subtle hair pulling (“pulling out” I should say- [...]
Thoughts on Tonglen and BDSM
Posted in Uncategorized, tagged bdsm, bottoming, Dossie Easton, Intimacy, Love, meditation, relationships, sex, Tonglen, trust on December 31, 2008 | 1 Comment »
Tonight while I was meditating, I engaged in Tonglen practice. Tonglen is when you bring to mind someone you know who is experiencing pain and you visualize yourself breathing in their suffering and breathing out compassion, light, healing- whatever they might be needing. I used to do this practice more often and usually I only [...]
Sex Trafficking and the New Abolitionists
Posted in Uncategorized, tagged activism, GEMS, Gloria Steinem, Rachel Lloyd, sex trafficking, Very Young Girls on December 22, 2008 | Leave a Comment »
I actually posted this on another blog, but thought folks here might be interested too. This obviously impacts the young LGBT community as well. -BF
Last weekend I attended a talk, moderated by Gloria Steinem, entitled “Sex Trafficking and the New Abolitionists” (video available here). Her panel consisted of Rachel Lloyd, Executive Director of GEMS (Girls Educational & [...]
A Subway Story
Posted in Uncategorized, tagged anger, compassion, violence on December 11, 2008 | 6 Comments »
I should be writing a paper instead of a blog post right now, but so be it. Something crazy happened on Tuesday evening. I was riding the subway home with a friend from class and there was this paranoid girl (a teenager) yelling at people for looking at her. No one was looking at her…of [...]
My Wish List
Posted in Uncategorized, tagged butch, relationships, wishful thinking on December 4, 2008 | 2 Comments »
A couple of years ago I made a list of what I was looking for in a partner. I do it as a quick first thing that comes into my mind kind of thing. I think it’s interesting to sit back after and see what ended up on the list (in what order) and what [...]
A Truly Black Friday
Posted in Uncategorized, tagged Black Friday, consumerism, Reverend Billy, Walmart, What Would Jesus Buy? on November 28, 2008 | 2 Comments »
I’ve been quite remiss in posting lately- grad school has gotten the best of me. I am keeping a running list of topics though for when I have the time. However, being that consumerism is one of my favorite topics, I couldn’t help but take a few minutes to comment on the Walmart tragedy today. A [...]
The Butch/Trans Divide
Posted in Uncategorized, tagged butch, feminism, femme, Identity, queer bodies in psychotherapy, trans on October 24, 2008 | 8 Comments »
So many things to say about the Queer Bodies in Psychotherapy conference last weekend…and so much homework I should be doing right now. I’ve decided to break it up into multiple posts. I’d like to begin by discussing a panel I attended on Saturday entitled “Butch Lesbians: A Vanishing Breed”. The presentation about butch identity [...]
An Update
Posted in Uncategorized, tagged birthday, Jack Kornfield, Mark Epstein, Rachael Yamagata, refuge vows on October 11, 2008 | 3 Comments »
I’ve been absent from the blogosphere for the last week or so- I’ve been quite busy. School is taking up enormous amounts of time, but it’s mostly good. It feels great to be spending so much of my time learning again- it’s opening a lot of doors. One way in which this program is different [...]
Femme-ness & Consumerism (A Few Thoughts)
Posted in Uncategorized, tagged consumerism, femme, Identity on October 3, 2008 | 11 Comments »
There’s been some conversation this week on Sublimefemme on “femme pleasure” in relation to consumerism. I just want to say that the emphasis on the outer when we discuss femme is quite off putting to me. I understand that a part of femme identity has to do with presentation- you’re more likely to find me [...]
