My dark brown hair has recently been invaded by more and more grey. I used to just pull the noticeable ones out, but ever since we had to watch a documentary on trichotillomania in one of my psych. classes, I have an aversion to even the most subtle hair pulling (“pulling out” I should say- [...]
Posts Tagged ‘butch’
To Dye or Not to Dye?
Posted in Uncategorized, tagged aging, beauty standards, butch, femme, grey hair, primping, queer femininity, vanity on January 9, 2009 | 5 Comments »
My Wish List
Posted in Uncategorized, tagged butch, relationships, wishful thinking on December 4, 2008 | 2 Comments »
A couple of years ago I made a list of what I was looking for in a partner. I do it as a quick first thing that comes into my mind kind of thing. I think it’s interesting to sit back after and see what ended up on the list (in what order) and what [...]
The Butch/Trans Divide
Posted in Uncategorized, tagged butch, feminism, femme, Identity, queer bodies in psychotherapy, trans on October 24, 2008 | 8 Comments »
So many things to say about the Queer Bodies in Psychotherapy conference last weekend…and so much homework I should be doing right now. I’ve decided to break it up into multiple posts. I’d like to begin by discussing a panel I attended on Saturday entitled “Butch Lesbians: A Vanishing Breed”. The presentation about butch identity [...]
Finding a History That Speaks to Me…Finally
Posted in Uncategorized, tagged butch, desire, femme, Identity, Joan Nestle, queer history, reading, The Persistent Desire on August 7, 2008 | 3 Comments »
I FINALLY got my hands on a copy of Joan Nestle’s edited collection The Persistent Desire: A Femme-Butch Reader. I’m not even halfway through, but I’ve been devouring it in sumptuous mouthfuls. Why didn’t I know this book existed ten years ago?! No matter, I’m still extremely grateful to have found it.
I’m enjoying the autobiographical pieces [...]
How I Love Jeanette Winterson…
Posted in Uncategorized, tagged butch, femme, Jeanette Winterson, Love, reading on July 29, 2008 | 2 Comments »
I just wanted to share a short Jeanette Winterson story I found online, originally published by The Independent, called The Final Sacrifice. I am forever in awe of Winterson’s writing and she evokes feeling from me in a way no other writer has. I’ll share two of my favorite excerpts here…
“Today though, Achilles has to make time. [...]
Feeling “Other”
Posted in Uncategorized, tagged butch, compassion, femme, homophobia, Identity, other, passing, Queer, racism on July 27, 2008 | 2 Comments »
As a queer girl living in NYC, I’m a bit out of place in certain situations, but I usually feel relatively at home. When I’m alone, like it or not (and that’s a not for me), I pass as straight and so I’m viewed as “the norm”. But when I’m with a butch lover or friend, I’m suddenly aware of [...]
By Way of Introduction…Specifically, The Femme Question
Posted in Uncategorized, tagged Buddhism, butch, desire, femme, Identity, Queer on July 15, 2008 | 9 Comments »
My identity has come under some scrutiny recently (not a bad thing), specifically around whether or not I claim “femme” as an identity.
What does it mean to claim femme as an identity? Sure, I’m a queer who presents as “feminine”. I like to wear dresses, skirts, fishnets and heels…not everyday of course. But femme is [...]
